Rough times at home

by Doc Coleman on October 23, 2013 · 8 comments

in Asides

Things have been a little rough on the home front, and that has made it a little hard to concentrate. My mother in law has gone into the hospital, and my wife has gone to see her to lend what support she can, and make sure that my mother in law’s cat is properly taken care of. I am happy to say that as of the time that I started writing this, the prognosis is looking better, although it wasn’t always that way.

My mother in law is diabetic, and the disease has progressed far enough that she has neuropathy, loss of sensation in her extremities. This means that she tends to drop things because she can’t tell if she has a good grip on them or not, and that she has to be careful about damaging her feet, because she can’t feel that she just rammed her foot into something or stepped on something. On the plus side, she no longer fears the pain of Legos on the floor. On the minus side, is what has transpired.

One of those things that she tends to drop is glasses. The kind you drink out of. They have nice smooth sides and they tend to slip out of her hands and shatter on the floor. Normally, she is very careful about making sure that she cleans up all the glass. This time, apparently she missed a piece and managed to wound one of her toes. She didn’t discover the wound until later, when she noticed a stain spreading on the carpet by her foot. It was her blood.

The wound had gotten infected, so she went to the hospital, and my wife packed a bag and went to see her mom. And that is where things started getting rough. Infections for diabetics are very bad things. Well, they’re bad for anyone, but for a diabetic with circulation issues and neuropathy, an infection can get very bad very fast. Best case was that the infection would respond to anti-biotics, and all they would have to do is clean it out. Worst case, she’d lose the foot. Understandably, we were concerned.

The doctors performed a procedure to see how bad the infection had spread, and had to take two of her toes. They managed to clean a lot of the infection out, but there is no guarantee that the remaining flesh will recover. Today, Tuesday as I write this, she had a second procedure where they cleaned out more infected tissue. The prognosis is better, but she’s not out of the woods yet.

The process hasn’t been easy on any of us. My mother in law had some problems with the sedation and pain killers they were giving her in the hospital after the first procedure. Mostly problems remembering where she was and why she was there. Things seem to be better after today’s procedure, and we hope that will continue. For Kee, it has been hard being away from home, and seeing her mother in this state. Me, I feel kind of helpless. I’m in a different state. I can’t do anything to help directly. The best I can do is try to keep the home fires burning and keep on keeping on.

It has made me very distracted, and made it hard to focus on much for very long.

It looks like Kee will have to come home soon to get fresh supplies of her medicines. She is thinking that most likely she will have to bring her mom’s cat along with her, since there really isn’t anyone down there to take care of it. This will be an adventure seeing how Tryll takes to another cat. And we won’t know if we’ll just be holding on to the cat for a few months, or if this will be her new home.

Time will tell. Spare a thought or two for us, please? We can use the well wishes.

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1 Melissa (My words and pages) October 23, 2013 at 9:06 am

Oh my. So sorry to hear things have gotten that far with your mother-in-laws diabetes. My mom has diabetes, but she’s no where near that far, yet. But we know it’s a chance in the future. Do hope they got it all with the second procedure. Sending all the thoughts to you and her.

And hope the cats adapt well. It might be a home for a while. Good luck.

And hope turns around a bit.


2 Doc Coleman October 23, 2013 at 8:59 pm

She seems to be doing better today. All we can do is hope the trend continues.

Kee will be coming back on Sunday. First time trying to travel interstate with a cat. Always an adventure.



3 Vval October 24, 2013 at 10:21 pm

Eep. Best wishes for quick recovery.

A thought: is your MIL especially attached to her current breakable glasses? If not, and dropping glasses isn’t unusual, is there a reason not to have polycarb or acrylic, at least for every day? Barn door and all, but one of many potential hazards gone.


4 Doc Coleman October 24, 2013 at 11:30 pm

That’s not a bad idea. I’m not sure where she got the glasses that she had before, but the process of attrition may make it possible to replace the glasses. I’ll suggest it to Kee, since she is the one down there on the scene.




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